“Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”
Being vulnerable with someone can be a scary thing. Being vulnerable with God can feel even scarier. But the purpose of vulnerability is to build connection and trust between two parties. In the book, Boundaries, the authors point out that “Not dealing with hurt or anger can kill a relationship… We do not communicate our feelings by saying, “I feel that you…” We communicate our feelings by saying, “I feel sad, or hurt, or lonely, or scared or…” Such vulnerability is the beginning of intimacy and caring.” (p. 155)
When we choose to hide our feelings rather than expose them to another, we can unintentionally be killing our relationship with that person. We may sometimes choose to tell a lie instead- “Oh, I’m fine! Don’t worry about me!” If you are actually angry or sad and need to address it with that person, lying about your feelings is not godly or healthy.
This does not mean you share all your feelings with everyone, all the time. We use godly wisdom. We take our feelings to God and ask Him what He says about them. We may need to address what we are feeling on our own, in prayer, or it may need further conversation with another person. And not everyone can be trusted with all our feelings. I wouldn’t share my deepest feelings with a total stranger or someone I know will use it against me. God will give you wisdom on who to share with. Everyone else? Use healthy boundaries to say, “I’d rather not share about that.” Viola! Easy as pie, right?
1.) Take time to be vulnerable with God today. He already knows all your thoughts and feelings- why not put them into words and pray about how you feel? Let Him speak back to YOU about how you feel.
2.) Who are your “safe” people to be vulnerable with and who are not? Ask God to give you discernment and adjust your vulnerability accordingly.
3.) If you have been hurt by someone you trusted who used your vulnerability against you, God wants to heal that. Journal or pray out loud what you need healed today. (This could be an ex, a child, a friend from your past or currently.)