“Therefore, since we have these promises, dear friends, let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.”
2 Corinthians 7:1
A lack of boundaries can allow others to walk all over you. If you are a person who likes to help others and lets others’ needs dictate your schedule and worries, this may be your every day life! Why do others keep asking you to go out of your way to fix their issues or fill in for their mistakes/poor planning? Your generousity may communicate to people that you are ok with the way they treat you. Helping isn’t bad- it is a gift!- but allowing others to take advantage of that gift IS bad.
Setting healthy limits for the way others treats you communicates that you are valued and worthy, and people should treat you accordingly. Choosing to live up to others’ expectations of you is idolatry (not to mention exhausting!) Anytime we value the approval of someone else more than we do God’s approval, we are actually worshiping them. If we want to purify our hearts and live in reverence for God, we need to stop letting others run the show and let God do what He does best: Be in charge.
1.) What are the far reaching consequences of your lack of boundaries? Think about society as a whole, your work place, and your extra-curricular activities.
2.) Think about your daily interactions with others. Are you in charge of you, or are you letting others dictate your feelings, stresses, and schedule? How is that shaping your current lifestyle?
3.) We can be overwhelmed by all the ways we are “missing the mark.” God doesn’t keep track of our wrongs, and I believe God wants to write you a letter today expressing the areas you are NAILING! Sit quietly with no agenda other than hearing how He sees you. Write it down.