“Mom! I need this back pack!”
I don’t know what it is about my son, Tristan, and back packs from Target, but Jesus speaks to my family at the red circle store. We were deep into school supply shopping when he emerged from around the aisle wall, sporting something colorful on his back. If you remember, God reveals himself through Tristan’s school supply shopping. I know we all secretly believe the Holy Trinity must reside in that store somewhere (possibly behind the popcorn or slushy machine?) but this is different. The lessons I learn there cut straight to the heart. Only this year’s lesson wasn’t about budget or patience. It was about self-confidence. Here was my son, and strapped to his back was…
…a girl’s cartoon-kitten back pack.
Me, snickering: “Tristan! That bag is super cute, but you know it is a girls’ back pack, right?”
Tristan, confidently: “Yeah, I know. I don’t care! It is so cute, and it has a little paw for the front zipper!”
I laughed. I could already see the bullies of the school lining up to take shots at him. This wasn’t going to be pretty.
“How about we think about it for a week. If it is still your favorite bag, we will purchase it. Ok?”
We struck a deal, minus the “spit-in-the-hand” handshake, and moved on.
A week didn’t lessen his love. He was all kitties, all the time. And back at Target he was ready to shop! I was supportive- I couldn’t care less if it was a girl’s bag! I was more worried about his heart more than anything else. With his eager heart ready to buy the bag, I explained the rules:
“No returning the bag for any reason. We aren’t going back and forth on this. It is a girls’ bag, as you can see by the kitty ears on top. If someone makes fun of you for this back pack, we aren’t returning it. This purchase is final. Are you still committed?”
He was. Emphatically.
I was. Hesitantly.
Oh, here we go, Lord. Please don’t let anyone make fun of him!
He marched right into that first day of school without a lick of doubt. He loved that kitty back pack and no one was going to convince him otherwise. Guess what? Everyone loved his kitties. If there was an unkind word spoken, I wouldn’t have known, and he probably didn’t care.
Ah, to have the confidence of a nine-year-old boy convinced the world loves him! How can we learn to forget everyone’s opinions and embrace who we are, without question?
What do you love? What do you dislike? What music sets your soul on fire? What passions would you pursue if no one were there to judge? It is difficult to be confident when you question. Try something on for size. Does it feel like you? Look like you? Move your spirit? Then don’t second guess yourself all day- own it! Look back on how it made you feel and you can decide then if it is truly “you” or not!
Know how to be humble.
Humility is not the opposite of confidence, as some would have you believe. You can be humble and confident simultaneously! Jesus was. The Bible tells us He was humble in spirit (Matthew 11:29), yet I never saw him back down from a pharisee that challenged a decision he made or who He was as man and God. You can be YOU in the face of judgement and criticism. Knowing who you are and whose you are is not conceit- it’s confidence!
Don’t be swayed by other’s opinions.
Opinions are defined as a “view or judgement formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge.” The very core of someone’s thoughts about your clothes, your job, your marriage are based on what? Their emotions that day? Their past prejudices? Their current personal situations? Who knows?! Why in the world would we let opinions shape who we are and how we view ourselves? Those that are closest to you and love you the most should be the only words you let into your heart. Ignore the whispers behind your back, once and for all.
Just like Tristan, my prayer is that you never back down from who you are; that you never march to the beat of someone else’s drum; that your heart isn’t swayed by society. What are you second-guessing today? What are you apprehensive to achieve because of others? Today, let’s stand on the truth of Christ, that we are handcrafted, beautifully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:13-14) and no one can convince us otherwise.
How have you struggled with self-confidence? Have you learned some of your own tricks to stay true to who you are? We’d love to hear your story! Comment below or share on FB.
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